He understood me, he said. My pastor knew why I was drawn back to the silent meetings of Quakerism after years of churchgoing. I had been abused by adults as a kid and therefore had an "issue" with authority. Quakers are "anti-authoritarian." Ergo.
Actually, I was simply famished from all the words. So much talk in church! Silence is nourishing. There's a place much deeper than than the mental fitness center where we process events through words or images.
Silence is also scary. Hence "an awkward silence followed" and "Freddy gave me the silent treatment" and "Shhh in the library" and (when I was a kid) "children should be seen and not heard." If you Google "Democrats silent" or "Republicans silent" you'll find that the American political system is hiding under the bed with tape over its mouth.
Why is it up to religious people to set the record straight on silence? A Catholic website declared in October that "Vatican Spokesman Discusses Value of Silence." It's not a religious thing. It's just...silence.
|"In truth this "Internet" baffles me" GF, 1697|
When you're struggling with a problem, sit in silence. Focus on something neutral or pleasant--your breathing, or the sleeping cat. (Play this Funeral March for a Deaf Man by Alphonse Allais. Okay, that's a joke) Keep silent for five or ten minutes.
See what shifts.